kinda a rant on getting misgendered
tldr: rant about how my friends kinda piss me off but is kinda my fault but i think they should be trying harder
so for context im mtf trans but ive only come out as non-binary to my friends cuz im still not sure
its been 5 months and i can count on 2 hands the amount of times ive heard people use they/them for me. i havent really corrected anyone because i dont really want to spend a bunch of effort getting peopl to use incorrect pronouns but i dont wanna come out as she/her because i guess im unsure and kinda scared.
but it still hurts everytime i hear someone use he/him and just masculine terms in general...
i dont think that they're transphobic or anything (hopefully lmao) probably just that i havent really pushed them and they dont know that much about it i guesss if that makes sense. also since (almost) no one else is using them they might feel uncomfortable or something.
im a bit to tired to think coherently right now... (its half past 2am...)
anyway i should probably talk to them about that, but it feel a bit late since im gonna be going on holidays/moving in a few days but who gives a fuck this is kinda important and a few days of being gendered correctly outweigh light awkwardness
one of the reasons im writing this is because a few months ago someone was like "using they/them is so weird and confusing" and my best friend said "like not it isnt at all" while hes gendered me correctly (in my presence) about 3 times in 5 months (we hang out at least twice a week)